The Details
(Trigger Warning)
The details I missed out of my story! Let’s rewind right back to the hospital and the 1st meeting I had telling me I was too deliver my 13 week baby in the Labour ward!
I had such a lovely doctor but she told me……
1)I would be wheeled right into the labour ward -I did not want this! 2)I would be greeted at the door to get me right in! 3)Promised no women would be In the ward as Fridays are quiet! 4) No waiting time between entry and my room! 5) I would have my own Personal Midwife from entering the Labour Ward to Leaving the Labour Ward!
1) I was not wheeled to labour ward, I never even seen a wheelchair at the hospital. 2)I was Not greeted at the door to be let straight in! 3) We are not daft – babies decide when they come into the world! I get what she was trying to do! But what Bullshit to tell someone! 4) I waited 2 mins at the Midwife Station before getting showed to my room! 5) I did Not meet my midwife for 1hr and 30mins after I entered the room, she spent more time with I think a woman in labour.
I did not want a wheelchair& I certainly would never have used it! I waited nearly 3 minutes at the Labour Ward Door before getting let inside! No!!! Not by the Midwifes (from me buzzing buzzing and buzzing to get in) but by an extremely happy dad!! Yup! I said that right! Once inside all the midwifes where hanging around the station!
As we approached the station some of the midwifes looked at us and then started talking again! My husband had to ask for help! None of them new we were coming! Finally I got taken up to the very back room! And I was Warned if I hear bang doors , it’s only the doors to the Surgery room!
I was absolutely petrified of what was going to happen to me, (as stated before as soon as I was told “deliver in the Labour ward” I heard nothing else!) I didnt know what was going to happen, how long I was going to be there, how long the process was going to take, When the process was going to start! So to be left for 1 hr and 30mins nervous, anxious and terrified So to have to wait on our own was awful to me!
Finally we met the midwife, talked procedure, told her I was scared! Procedure begins! NOW since I’m no secrets I’m gonna tell you one that’s not out there! I asked the midwife “now what” her reply right now actually disgusts me back at the time I thought nothing of it! “What now” her reply ” just pull your trousers up and go for a walk, you can go to the canteen, Walk around the hospital ”
Yeah she did go there! I waited 3 mins at the labour ward door not for a midwife to let me in but a very happy dad, in what planet did I want to torture myself with walking up and down the corridor or up and down the Maternity unit!!
Instead I hid under my sheet while laying flat on the bed! Waiting for Labour to begin!
A Mother’s Journey 